What should be a joyous event – the birth of a grandchild – is being overshadowed by the circumstances of your daughter’s pregnancy. While it’s true that she shouldn’t be pregnant, she is! Now you are faced with a choice; be consumed with embarrassment, shame and heartbreak, or begin to see what God can do with this situation. Grandchildren are gifts straight from God. They are beautiful reminders that He’s in control and there is a future. Your daughter made a mistake, but the gift is still the same! Receive it with joy. Pray that God will enable you to get past your expectations of what should have been and take hold of the future with a brand-new grandbaby! Pray blessings over your daughter and grandchild, and over the baby’s father. Pray that the family will be whole, in love, and in Christ. Then shout for joy. A new baby is on the way!
Your daughter is now 21 and a woman on her own. As parents we invest in the lives of our children, but as they grow, they make decisions on their own. Often those decisions are not what we would want them to do, but because they are adults, they must live out the consequences of their decisions. I want to encourage you not to take on shame or any other label because of your daughter's situation. Truly it is not what you would have chosen for her and no doubt your heart breaks for her, but the consequences are hers not yours. She made the decision, you did not.
Releasing adult children to their own lives is a big part of parenting. I pray that you continue to love and support your daughter in her circumstances, but that you stop taking emotional or any other responsibility for what she has done. When Adam and his wife chose to sin, it was not a reflection of God's poor parenting. Neither is your daughter's decision a reflection on you.