Forged in the Fire
The Triangle
Wednesday, May 19, 2010 2:06 pm
I want to make it very clear that I am no expert in the area of codependency. I am learning as I go and if you are on the same journey, we can learn together. There are many resources available and many support groups that may help you. I joined one at one time, but just about everyone was divorced and that seemed to be the theme of their recovery. I knew that was not the support group for me. You must make similar decisions about what will or will not help you on your journ...
Do You Recognize These Patterns?
Monday, May 17, 2010 4:43 pm
As I began walking through this journey, I began to realize that since I was a small child, I have felt responsible for the well-being of my family members. I have always been the family "rescuer" - the one everybody counted on to smooth over conflicts and restore peace. I learned early in life how to rescue others. When
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In Covenant But not Codependent
Saturday, May 15, 2010 4:40 pm
 Please forgive my prolonged absence, but I have been on a journey of my own. For some time I have been intrigued by the evidence of codependency in my own life as well as in the life of many others I have watched stand for a marriage. Many times during my life I began studying the topic, but soon abandoned the study because so many materials on codependency recommend divorce. Again and again, though, I saw the same characteristics in my life and I wanted to be free.
How Long Does This Take?
Sunday, March 28, 2010 1:55 pm
Many times people ask me, "How long does do I have to stand? Nothing seems to be happening." Others express their frustration in other ways. "I don't think standing is making any difference. He (or she) hasn't changed a bit." Others tell me, "Oh, I stood for a few years, but nothing ever happened, so I quit."
Unfortunately, most people begin standing for their marriage because they love their spouse and want the marriage restored. Why do I say unfortunately? Because that is the wrong foundation for a stand and when the initial goal is wrong, then all the markers that measure the success of that goal can be discouraging.The key to understand...
What Is Strength?
Monday, February 8, 2010 4:26 pm
When Governor Sanford's adultery was first revealed, I heard a discussion on TV about whether or not his wife Jenny should stay with him. They talked about the fact that she is a Christian and then one of the commentators said, "I think she's much too strong to stay with him."
During anot...
Is It Worth It?
Friday, December 25, 2009 8:25 pm
When Michael left me years ago I was pregnant with our third child, Jason. Because of his father's rejection, he had a lot of fear and rejection to overcome in his life. Each of our children reacted differently to their woundings and each was healed in a very special way by Jesus....
Be It Done Unto Me According to Your Will
Saturday, December 19, 2009 3:59 am
This time of year I always think about Mary. For us the Christmas story is filled with wonder and joy, but I often think of how Mary arrived at the fulfillment of God's promise.
She was a young girl, engaged to be married, and, no doubt, preparing as all brides do for her wedding day. Then one day an angel appeared to her. Now that in itself would shake up most of us. The angel greeted her with words of honor and prophecy, "Hail, Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with you." The M
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Overcoming Holiday Challenges
Sunday, December 6, 2009 7:31 pm
 Perhaps the hardest time of the year to be standing for your marriage is during the holiday season. Not only is it a time that makes you feel more alone than usual but it is also filled with memories of much happier times. Difficult as they may be, though, the holidays do not need to overwhelm you. There are many things you can do to walk in victory during these challenges days.
What To Do With the Pain of Betrayal
Friday, December 4, 2009 1:02 am
 Over the years I have met many people whose spouses betrayed them in adultery. 99.9% of them are divorced. Most of them explained to me that they divorced their spouse when they discovered the betrayal because they felt they could never trust him or her again. In this group of divorced people I have found one thing to be universally true ~ no matter how long it has been since they divorced, they are all still hurting from the bet...
It's Not Just for You
Thursday, December 3, 2009 10:56 pm
Something very special happened yesterday. And the Lord did it in the most unusual way.
I have always been a bit uncomfortable when the people we are with in a restaurant ask the waitress if she is a Christian when she first walks up to our table. I am equally uncomfortable when people ask the same question of salespeople in a store or a stranger on a bus. I'm not saying they are wrong and I am right or that I am wrong and they are right. I've just never been comfortable with the approach.
Life and Death
Sunday, November 29, 2009 3:42 am
Don't let anyone ever tell you that what you are doing is not making a difference. Two things happened this past week that once again confirmed the power of standing in the gap.
The first one involved a young couple we know. They have been experiencing a lot of financial difficulty during these trying times and, as usual, financial pressures put a good deal of stress on their relationship. They had separated a couple times in the past few months and those around them were beginning to speak about a p...
Life After Adultery
Monday, September 28, 2009 3:35 pm
Fogive me for being away for so long. The summer was filled with many situations and needs that took much more time than I had to give. Praise the Lord that things are settling down to the normal roar again!!
I thought about you a good deal during the summer. Attending the Covenant Keeper's convention in Tulsa again reminded me of the brave warriors who are standing in faith for spouses and families across this nation and beyond. During those days there and since then in letters and emails, many have asked me about what to do after a spouse returns home from one or more adulterous affairs. It seems this is a good time to address that issue.
First of all, for a woman the betrayal of adultery is...
The World Is Watching
Sunday, July 5, 2009 1:04 pm
It has been interesting watching the situation with Gov. Mark Sanford. When the news of his adultery first broke, reporters on station after station speculated about what was going to happen. One in particular stood out to me as the reporter stated that the governor's wife would surely not stand by her man because she was a woman of strong faith. Evidently being strong in their eyes meant taking care of number one. I waited to see what would happen.
When Jenny Sanford announced that she had chosen to forgive her husband and work on their marriage, the press went wild. The world began to smirk. They didn't know what to do with forgiveness in the face of infidelity and so ...
Don't Sit While You Stand
Friday, May 22, 2009 11:31 pm
What are you doing while you are standing? What occupies your thoughts? Where do you focus your energy? Where do you find your peace and contentment?
These are important questions when we are standing. The point of standing is not to be consumed by standing. Your spouse should not be your focus. Your marriage healing should not be your focus. You should keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the Author and Finisher of your faith.
An amazing thing happens when you...
Consider Leah
Wednesday, May 6, 2009 8:14 pm
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