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We do not provide counseling, but our Coaching Couples teach life-giving principles that will transform any marriage and then model how those principles work in a marriage. Our Married for Life course provides many, if not all, the answers you may need to both heal and strengthen your marriage. Check out the curriculum here. This link will take you to a list of people we know can help you if you wish.

We strongly believe that any Christian marriage can be healed. When Jesus Christ is Lord of each spouse's life, then His power is fully available to heal and stenghten a marriage. So, yes, we can help your marriage be restored to what Jesus has designed it to be. You may ask, "How can you say such a thing?" We believe the problems you are having are common to what many others have faced and we know that the life-giving principles of scripture provide the answers to those problems. If you want your marriage to be healed and are willing to work on it together, we know you will see changes.

You sure can!
Marriage was designed by God; therefore it can be great. It was not designed to be a burden. It was designed to:

1. Make your life be less burdensome and more powerful.
2. Provide security for children.
3. Have lots of fun for years to come.

But how can we achieve that? The answers can be found in the Married for Life class.
The class will provide you with tools to help you overcome any obstacle that would prevent you from revitalising your marriage.

Once again we feel that the Married for Life study will do this for you. It is designed to help all types of marriages, from the ugly to the really sweet marriages.

Perhaps if you have to ask this question, you may have "issues" in your marriage. Overcoming those issues will enable you to enjoy your life together.
Have a look at the Couples Stories and the Romantic Testimonies and you will see some ways people have fun together.

Proverbs 5:18-19 (Message) "Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose- don't ever quit taking delight in her body. Never take her love for granted!"

We definitely can help there. Check out this link.

Our Married for Life course is designed not only to help your marriage get better, but to give you tools to help others. If you both are keen to help many in your neighbourhood or church, then you could learn to lead classes. Contact one of these people near you and they will be able to help you.

No we do not.
We do not believe that Christians should divorce because God designed marriage to last a lifetime, and makes this possible.

Refer to these scriptures:

Matthew 19:6
"So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."

Numbers 30:2
"When a man makes a vow to the LORD or takes an oath to obligate himself by a pledge, he must not break his word but must do everything he said." This includes wedding vows!

Ecclesiastes 5:4-5
When you make a vow to God, do not delay in fulfilling it. He has no pleasure in fools; fulfill your vow. It is better not to vow than to make a vow and not fulfill it.

Malachi 2:16
"I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel, "and I hate a man's covering himself with violence as well as with his garment," says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.

Mark 10:2-12
2 Some Pharisees came and tested him by asking, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?"
3 "What did Moses command you?" he replied.
4 They said, "Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away."
5 "It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law," Jesus replied.
6 "But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female.
7 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,
8 and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one.
9 Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."
10 When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this.
11 He answered, "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her.
12 And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery."

In this passage the Pharisees tried to trick Jesus with what was then, and still is today, a contentious issue. Yes, Moses wrote the law of divorce, but Jesus said that was for those with a hard heart. We Christians believe we have a soft heart (heart of Flesh) so therefore Jesus says that those rules do not apply to us. He has given us tools to fix the problem not to run away from it!
[And I will give them one heart, and I will put a new spirit within you; and I will take the stony heart out of their flesh, and will give them an heart of flesh: (Eze 11:19)
A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh. (Eze 36:260]

Remember; "But Jesus looked on them and said to them, With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible." (Mat 19:26)

We encourage you to look to God for the answer and strength.
Check out this link to hear how one couple found this to be very true.

The short answer is YES!

Your marriage is damaged but is not irraparable. God wants to help and repair your marriage.

There are very good testimonies of God doing this on this site. Click here to see some of these.