Hong and Julie

SET FREE FROM 22 YEARS OF MARITAL BAGGAGESET FREE FROM 22 YEARS OF MARITAL BAGGAGE

This couple joined the MFL class as LIT in 2002 and had been course leaders since then. They are currently serving as 2=1 leaders apart from being church leaders.

Julie

When we were invited to ‘observe' the MFL lessons conducted, we straight away only thought of the benefits for ‘other' people's marriages. We didn't think we ourselves needed the course until we went and trained as LIT for ourselves.

It was said that every 7 years, couples go into a new phase in their marriage. You either grow closer together or further from each other. We had been so busy bringing up our children that had grown up so quickly, establishing our own careers, that we did not know the climate of our own relationship. Before we realized it, we were already in the 22nd year of our marriage.

MFL course came in timely to re-focus our marriage lives. We were able to unearth our 22 years of accumulated past actions and words which had caused hurts, knowingly or unknowingly. We had swept all those hurtful remarks and action or non-action under the carpet in order to keep the ‘peace and harmony' in the home. In fact, I don't remember quarreling with my husband except once since most times it was cold wars. However, forced to do the homework, we were able to talk things out without animosity. I remember crying one whole night while I marveled that Hong could not even remember he had ever said or done those many issues that were brought up.

Hong

Through the MFL course my wife and I had been brought closer and being more transparent and honest to talk about issues relating to ourselves, our children and our parents. There was a new sense of freedom from the bondage that came from harboring anger, unforgiveness, and bitterness with each other. We realized God could not bring out the best in our marriage to work out His destiny through us until we have this freedom.

The second thing we learnt is the synergy of spiritual warfare as a one-flesh praying team. Leviticus 26:8 says ‘five of us will chase a thousand and a hundred of us shall put ten thousand to flight'. This weapon that God has put in our hands gave us much strength doing warfare as a couple as we fight for our children, ourselves and our loved ones.

Finally, we also begin to see more romance in our lives as we learnt to appreciate one another and express our love for each other more regularly. We are beginning to re-live with a new freshness just like our early days of marriage.