The Blended Family2=1 is Here to Help
The blended family - a euphemism for disconnected relationships or a prophetic word for a peaceful household?
What you do and how you do it makes all the difference.
Today there are millions of homes facing the challenges of combining families. They are discovering that just placing a number of people from different families in one household doesn't blend a family. Past hurts, mistrust, jealousy, and fear can create an atmosphere of chaos and division. Facing the issues, though, and doing what needs to be done to form a strong family foundation can help create a home in which all family members feel honored and accepted. So what does it takes to develop a successful blended family?
If you, or someone you know, have combined two families under one roof, you already know the challenges that develop. The Brady Bunch it's not! And things do not just get better as time passes. Ignoring problems and hoping they work out on their own is not the answer either. No one "outgrows" rejection and hurt. Wounds continue to fester and eventually erupt in confrontation.
Is it possible to create a blended family on God's foundation? Of course it is, but it takes doing things God's way to accomplish it. Most blended families begin when a man and a woman form a relationship and decide to marry. They each bring their children with them into the marriage. The children then must adjust to a new parent, new siblings, and a new extended family. They may also have to change schools, churches and other significant social groups. In addition, if their other parent remarries as well, they have to undergo the same process with that family. What the parents see as a beautiful beginning is often not viewed the same way by their children.
One of the goals of 2=1 is to help blended families become strong and healthy. It doesn't just happen - it takes work and lots of it! Learning from the past and overcoming current hurdles can strengthen every family member.
Family is not the place to fail at relationships! If you are ready to be totally honest with yourself and the other members of your family you are ready to begin the journey as a strong blended family. It's not an easy road, but it's well worth the effort.
By Mike and Marilyn Phillipps
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